Oral Sex - Taboo Amongst Christians? (Q&A)
Oral Sex - Taboo Amongst Christians? (Q&A)
Question: “Geli, help please. I heard a Pastor mention that oral sex is not a godly act among married couples. I find the issue of oral sex to be a great taboo amongst Christians. What are you thoughts on this?”
My Answer: Provided all activities are done with mutual loving respect, with no pressure, all is fine between husband and wife!
There are some women who do not enjoy oral sex - giving or receiving. I find it particularly a problem with women who have a negative body image and have been led to believe that the vulva and area around is ‘not nice’, ‘dirty’, shameful’, ‘smelly’ and a host of other things. This is rather sad, and it take a loving man to reassure her how uniquely beautiful she is ‘down there’.
Oral sex is a God sent to all those millions of women who never seem to reach an orgasm by penetration. Any which way a man penetrates a vagina, he will have an orgasm, unless there are some erectile dysfunctions or he is impotent. The same cannot be said for a woman!
Gentle hand massages in the clitoral and vaginal area are wonderful, but there is nothing like the different sensations a mouth and tongue can give. Much like kissing, the lips are in action, the tongue can gently flicker the clitoris, or the husband can gently cup her with his lips and take the entire area into his mouth and tenderly suck especially the clitoris.
That suction motion causes blood to flow into the clitoris and surrounding tissues causing a myriad of nerve cells to come alive. The clitoris much like a penis experiences more sensation the more engorged it is with blood.
When the husband is so close to the source of his wife’s pleasure zone, he is also very close to her arteries in the legs, and can monitor the heart pulse rate which becomes more rapid when she gets closer to her orgasm. He can then either slow her down in order to bring her up in a delayed reaction which vastly increases her orgasm, or just let her come full blast. All this he would not be able to do if he was just penetrating her with his penis.
When it comes to oral sex for a man, again the sensations are different to penetration because the mouth can produce different types of pressure and sucking actions, creating a different vacuum sensation than being inside the vagina, whilst at the same time flickering the frenum (the little ‘elastic band’ of tissue under the glans of the penis that connects to the foreskin). God created all these wonderful nerve endings for our pleasure, all is connected to the entire nervous system, so why not explore them?
They key here is love and respect, know what your beloved finds pleasurable. If it is mutually enjoyable to you, then flow in your own unique bliss!
The marriage bed is holy, and it is literally a bountiful buffet of different pleasures, so why stick just to the same old chicken sandwich??
In private consultation and coaching I go into greater detail on how to be most effective pleasuring your loved one - whether you are a man or a woman.
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